Birth order, and its influence on how you live your life, has been a topic of fascination for more than a century among researchers, psychologists, therapists and anyone who is intrigued by family dynamics. ‘People use birth order as a way of making powerful sense out of their lives,’ says Frank Sulloway, visiting scholar and member of the Institute of Personality and Social Research at the University of California, Berkeley.
There are a slew of variables that can skew birth order effects, say the experts. But every one of them emphasizes that birth order is only an influence, not a destiny.
Let’s take a look at some interesting observations which may not necessarily be conclusive.
Studies show that a first-born or only child may be more likely to become a doctor or lawyer. Younger siblings more often turn to the arts or the outdoors.
Parents may over-protect the oldest or the only kid. So the older siblings tend to follow more brain-based interests. When later children show up, parents can be more relaxed and hands-off.
Take a guess, of the 23 American astronauts in space, how many were firstborns?
All seven of the original Mercury astronauts were firstborns.
Most CEO’s are first born.
A 2007 survey of corporate leaders found that 43% of CEOs were firstborns, 33% were middle children, and 23% were youngest children. It is lonely at the top, at least at the beginning.
Who do you think would like to be adventurous and play extreme sports?
A younger brother is more likely to put on the pads — or go ski jumping, sky diving, motorcycle racing, or play lacrosse — than his older brother.
A study that looked at birth order and “dangerous” sports in college students found that firstborn men were more likely to avoid those sports. Younger brothers enjoyed the thrills of more daredevilry.
How much quality time do parents give firstborns compared with kids born later?
Even when parents try to play fair, thinking they are not partial to kids, it rarely works out that way. Kids born first get as much as 3,000 more hours of quality time with parents than younger siblings do at the same age.
Parents spend about equal time with two or more kids. But there’s less total free time than there was when a firstborn passed through a given age.
As parents get older, who do they feel closest to?
Older moms say they feel closest to their “babies” no matter what the family size or spacing between kids.
In the same study, mothers said firstborns were the ones they’d turn to when facing personal problems or a crisis.
Who’s more likely to put pressure on herself?
Firstborns tend to try to be “perfect” more often than those born later. But kids without siblings, who are often treated like little adults, seem to have even more of this trait.
How many people do you think have at least a brother or sister?
It’s clear why birth order interests us so much. Most of us weren’t born as the only child in a family.
Kids who are spaced less than two years apart often have more conflict than those born more than two years apart, pediatricians say.
Do Parents call the doctor less often with later-born children?
Yes it is true Doctors often tell new parents there’s no such thing as a dumb question. Parents climb a steep learning curve about how to take care of a child.
That’s why studies show that they call the doctor more with a firstborn. But time builds confidence. Parents also figure out which problems a doctor can help with and which they can handle on their own.
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